Manufacture Your Day by LEARNING TO HELP YOURSELF
I live in the greater Toronto area and here we can experience really cold temperatures well into April but how does complaining help?
What is my point?
There is a good chance that you will encounter people, situations and circumstances that you don’t like. That’s life. The important part is that you learn to help yourself. Having a mental strategy is important.
What would it take to find the good in the bad?
People may
- disappoint you;
- frustrate you;
- neglect you;
- ignore you;
- treat you unfairly;
- give you the silent treatment;
- bully you;
So be it. It definitely serves you well if you learn how to deal with difficult circumstances and/or people. Take people by surprise and choose a different response. There is the saying, “He who laughs last laughs longest.”
Do you tend to take things personally?
I admit, this can be a difficult one for many people. Especially when they have been criticized for so long, certain comments may go under their skin.
I would like to give you a mental strategy to avoid this self-destructive behaviour.
- Ask yourself, “What else could this mean?” (Look for the positive in the comment and find a different perspective.)
- When people make rude comments it is not about you, it is about them and their ability to handle the situation in a better way. Let it go!
- Take a deep breath and think – this is how you can switch from your emotional mind to your intelligent mind.
- Avoid making assumptions and drawing conclusions too quickly – how can you know for sure what is meant without asking with the intent to understand?
- Watch your internal dialogue. Your self-worth depends on you and not on what other people say about you.
Take it from me….
- Complaining about others doesn’t help.
- Complaining about complaining doesn’t help either.
- Thinking that it is everybody else’s fault but yours also won’t work in your favour.
The best strategy is a self-help strategy. Don’t wait for others to “save” you.
Please always remember that there is only one person who assigns the meaning to outside circumstances and other people. You!
Good or bad? What meaning will you choose?
Food for Thought:
Do you think it is important how you think about yourself and what you tell yourself about yourself? Be aware of your internal dialogue.
Read the Forbes Article:
How to Stop Taking Things Personally
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