Manufacture Your Day by LETTING GO OF ANGER

Have you ever observed how many people seem to have anger issues? They are angry with themselves, with others and with life in general BUT sometimes they simply don’t have the tools to control their emotional state.

Here it goes: ‘Karin, I like the advice and tools you provide for working through problems in the workforce. What I would love to see is a blog on this topic: Once you find yourself in a pickle—tied in a knot from your bad mood (despite having all the tools to change it)—how can you get out of that bad/angry place in a shorter time frame? Specifically, how can you turn a bad mood or day around in less than 24 hours (which is my usual stewing time), perhaps in just two hours?’

Great question!

We can all be angry and it is important to let go of anger as fast as humanly possible.

24 hours isn’t even that bad considering that some people hold on to anger for weeks, months and sometimes for years.

I have many of my insights from studying Tony Robbins’ teachings over the years. It had a huge impact on me and my life when I discovered that it truly matters where we live emotionally. In what state of emotion do we spend most of our time?

Don’t you think we should all set the intention to live as happy as we possibly can?

While this is easy when things are good, it is much more difficult when something is really bothering us. Having said this, we can master anything if we put our minds to it.

To answer my reader’s question – if you would like to bounce back faster, it is a matter of practice. Nothing worth achieving comes without putting in the work. It doesn’t happen overnight but you will see progress very soon.

Remember, when emotions are high, intelligence is low. Our emotional mind is our default operating system.

As a mental strategy for letting go of anger, I highly recommend the traffic light system. 

RED

Think (thinking helps us to tap into our intelligent mind and interrupts the reaction pattern) and take a deep breath; think about possible consequences if you don’t control yourself – for your internal world and for your external world.

AMBER

Discover what’s going on inside of you. Where is this feeling coming from? Ask yourself, “Do I want to feel this way? How do I want to feel?”

GREEN

Choose how you want to feel! For example, joyful. What can put you into a joyful state? (shift focus by watching a funny video, smile/faking a smile for 1 minute works wonders; interact with little children, play with a pet, exercise, meditate, put on some music you like and dance – in short, give your attention to something else that you enjoy doing);

Holding on to negative emotions has negative consequences – especially for your health and well-being.

1. Set a goal – For example, never go to bed feeling angry (this would shorten the 24-hour timeframe immediately)
2. Think different thoughts – How you feel is a result of your thoughts. If you want to change the feeling, change your thoughts.
3. Remind yourself that you can be in control – how fast you bounce back is a matter of choice, practice and determination.

You are one of a kind. Get down to it. It will be worth it – for you, your family and everyone else you interact with.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT:

Do you think you can restore respect once you lose it?

Read this article:

How to Deal with Anger and Better Control Your Emotion

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