Manufacture Your Day by BEING COMPASSIONATE
We make mistakes and that’s o.k. as long as we learn from them. After all, we are human.
Today I would like to share four “life positions” with you that are critical to how we think and communicate with each other. These life positions are basic beliefs about ourselves and others developed in our early childhood, which are used to justify our decisions and behaviour.
Here they are:
1. I am o.k., You’re o.k.
This means that a person had no severe problems or issues during his/her childhood, and had normal relationships with other people. These people recognize the significance of others in their lives.
2. I’m o.k., You’re not o.k.
This life position happens when someone is often ignored as a child. In this position, a person believes that he/she is right and everyone else is wrong. Blaming can become a big part of it.
3. I’m not o.k., You’re o.k.
This life position is the most common one and happens when individuals feel inferior to others. They believe that they can’t do things that others can do. These people tend to complain a lot and are often dissatisfied with their life.
4. I am not o.k., You’re not o.k.
These people lack interest in living. Their parents may have neglected them and feel that life is not worth living.
Why do I want you to think about this?
Many disturbing things are happening in our world nowadays. It is important for us to develop a greater awareness of where our own beliefs and actions come from and to become more observant of others.
How can you influence your current character life position? Challenge yourself by starting to think differently. Acknowledge that it may serve you well to evaluate what your inner “little voice” tells you about yourself and others.
You may not understand others, but you can accept them and their point of view.
One of the biggest parts of my work as a coach is to be non-judgmental. It’s not always easy but I must hold myself in that space.
If you get into the mentally healthy state of “okayness”, it will help you become more tolerant of others, and this will have a tremendous impact on how you communicate with the people around you.
I encourage you to give yourself and others permission to be human because the world needs more of that.
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